
Discernment Coaching is a short-term, structured process designed for couples who are uncertain whether they want to stay together or separate. The process focuses on helping each partner gain clarity and confidence about the future of their relationship, whether that means moving forward together or choosing to part ways. This coaching is especially helpful when one partner is leaning out of the relationship while the other is leaning in and hoping to save it. This is part of my Contemplating Divorce Services.
The Goals of Discernment Coaching:
- To gain a deeper understanding of what has happened in the relationship.
- To explore each person’s contributions to the current dynamic.
- To make a thoughtful and informed decision about the next steps.
What to Expect:
- A short-term process, between 3 to 5 sessions.
- Each session is conducted with the couple. There are no secrets.
- A safe, nonjudgmental space to explore your options without pressure.
- Support in making a clear, respectful, and intentional decision, whether that’s to work on the relationship, separate, or take more time to decide.
What the Difference between Discernment Coaching and Discernment Counseling?
One of the biggest differences between discernment coaching and discernment counseling is the focus. Discernment counseling (provided often by a licensed mental health provider) may touch on deeper emotional and psychological issues within the relationship. It may include more exploration of emotional trauma, past patterns, or mental health issues. Discernment coaching focuses on future-oriented decision-making and clarity, not on diagnosing or treating psychological issues. It is also more action-oriented and goal-driven; helping clients arrive at a clear decision about the direction of the relationship. Both can be extremely beneficial, but you need to decide which is right for you.
Getting support
Contact me if discernment coaching sounds right for you!